If you’re looking for a sign, this is it!
Hi! I’m Dr.Shilpa Wadhwa and I’m a Rapid Transformation Therapist (RTT) & Mindset Coach.
I studied Esthetic Dental Surgery at University of California, Los Angeles, (UCLA) and I am also a part of my family business that deals with finance and real estate. The most exciting part of my life now is being a mother to my baby girl Aryaa. She is the light of my life and the best thing that has ever happened to me. While all these things are great to have in life and I feel truly blessed, I’ve been looking for a deeper sense of meaning and purpose for a while now.
I did a Passion to Purpose course with Jay Shetty and it changed my life. It made me realize that my passion is to make people, mainly women feel worthy of love and self-love so that they can live to their fullest potential. The story I’m about to share with you is personal and deep and still makes me cringe to this very day.
Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve been overweight. In addition to this, I’ve always been an overachiever and was extremely competitive in everything I put my hands to. I never perceived this as a bad thing, I just accepted it as a part of my personality.
The very first lesson at the Passion to Purpose course was about the voices inside my head and what they were telling me. I then realized that I had been trying to compensate for being overweight my entire life! The worst part of it was that it was all coming from my own self. It was saying all kinds of mean things like, “You are already so overweight, you better be good at this”.
The saddest part about this is that I’ve always been surrounded by the most loving and supportive people who loved me the same regardless of how much I weighed. But the truth is, no amount of love and acceptance from others will help you until you truly love yourself. The voices in my head would always dominate and tell me that I needed to over-compensate and only by succeeding in life I could make up for being the size that I am.
This constant pressure I unconsciously put on myself to always overachieve and succeed had caused so much self-inflicted stress and anxiety over the years, which led to me develop an autoimmune disorder. Although I had gone from 98kgs to 52kgs a few times, the inner critical voices never really went away.
We all come onto this planet knowing that we are more than enough, and my daughter is living proof of this. Every day, as she looks at her herself in the mirror, sticks her belly out and with the sweetest gummy smile blows kisses at her reflection, I’m reminded of a love that is unconditional and uninhibited, without any fear and judgement. And I thought to myself, if I can love her like this, it was also time for me to love myself the same way.
Being a mother changes you in ways that you could have never imagined. As you start to think about your child’s future, you are forced to look at your own. I started to wonder about who I really was and what was my purpose, who I was without the labels of mother, daughter, and wife. I wanted to make my mark in the world, and I’ve read somewhere that if one person breathes easier on this planet because of the work I’ve done then I’ve left behind a legacy.
I decided that if I want to help other women transform, I need to up level and up skill in my areas of interest. This led me to train with Marisa Peer, a world renown therapist and the founder of Rapid Trasformation Therapy, a type of therapy that has won over 25 global awards in the past years.
I noticed my daughter began to learn so much just by watching me every single day and I decided that I needed to be a better role model. I wanted her to grow up and shine in all of her glory, always knowing that she is more than enough. And for this, she first needed a mother who was confident in herself and comfortable in her own skin. I decided then to put in the work to learn to heal my body and I gave myself permission to love my perfectly imperfect self. And even though I’m still on the journey of losing my post-pregnancy weight, I’m now more loving, kinder, and respectful to my body. I celebrate what it does for me every day, and most importantly I’ve mended my relationship with it ever since.